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Payback is a bitch

Bitches are categorized bitches for their spite, and in my opinion spite is never good. 
Spite is a product often seen when someones ego is telling them that they don’t feel OK with their situation, and that they can’t handle that someone else is having a good time or subjectively seen as “better”, a desire to hurt or annoy someone.
What i would call a negative act.

If you want a mentally “healthier”, more relaxed and friendly mind/life/osmosis/vibe, then this is an important aspect to overcome.
As evil fought with evil, will just make more evil, and the chain-reaction will go on.
And we our selves are the only ones that can change this chain-reaction by stepping in, by watching what happens and what the consequences of your actions are. What implications they will have on our human culture and planet over time.

Love to you all

The lust for the East

After inheriting a couple of the ways of Tao and a holistic view, including my previous knowledge about psychology and neuro-semantics ; I’ve started to see more and more how everything is interconnected with each other and how it affects our symbiosis to some extent. And i see a concept in the west that brings a lot of disturbance to the people, which blinds us for the greater cause we’re helping out with; I feel the need to share my view on this.

I’ve been aware of how much lust and greed most or many western people are having, for “a while”. We live on an economy based system where we work our ways to gaining comfort, giving ourselves treats and pleasures; these “milestones” gives us our fixes, of what we’re adequate with, or not. All this distortions makes us put and make meaning about personal needs and pleasures, rather than for the whole. For we are not alone, we are not just one, you couldn’t be you without the rest of the universe, it’s a part of you, and you’re a part of it.

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Many have to spend about 1/3 of our days on work or getting back and forth to it; 1/3 on sleeping, then the rest on what you’re actually here for, living. Which often goes to using up your time on other “brainless” distortions like TV-shows, and other different kinds of brainless media or whatnot that pleases your greed for fulfilling your desires, having your “fix”.

I’m not saying everyone is like this, but many I experience as so. People seem so  distracted about all these things that they forget who they are a part of, what’s really important to them and how it affects everything around you.  If you’re so certain that i’m wrong, how can you be? you’ve been shaped and conditions by how you’ve made meaning out of the exact order of “reality” you’ve experienced. You might have you’re beliefs on what’s right, but how can you know it is?

I’ve talked with a lot of lively teenagers and students  that wants to learn and experience a lot of the world, but they feel so stuck because of this system, which put them in some kind of debt, either economical, or psychologically out of principles by attending to school, work, taking care of family or  similar affairs.
I believe this is sad, its possible to work your way to achieve these goals, but as most of the world is right now, you’ve to spend a lot of time in this “distorted” environment before getting there, over all this hindrances telling you that you can’t be like you want to, with your current balance of economy or whatnot. The society is telling you what to do, and obey it’s rules, you’re not free as a subordinate of this system.

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I find it disturbing how so many of us work for these societies, corporations and countries, to feed the economy based industries and whatnot; that funds  them enough to continue  their quest of making products that doesn’t last, exploiting the consumers need for more. Creating supply and demand – Creating/inducing desires into man, then create the products to fill them. Control the market
All this greed for these “unnecessary” boosts the progression towards a polluted nature; an unhabitual nature and/or less hospitable. Yes it’s just another symbiosis, but it’s one that’s not good for man and other life(negative decay) in my opinion.

So this is what makes me go to the east, to experience more of the world that isn’t touched so much about this westernized planetary destructive system. As i want to experience and be around people who cherish other people and the nature for what it is, that gives it though, and don’t take more than it gives back.

I don’t feel like being a part of this parasitic system anymore. I want to help this process of growth, that have made “me”.

This view don’t directly drag me down in some ways, it’s just something that i want people to be aware of, and I would find it more comforting knowing that I’m not a part of a process like this.
But that doesn’t mean I feel sad that i do, and can’t thrive here. Of course not, i just feel it takes so much of the human quality of people.

You are your surroundings and it is you, how do you want to interact and analyse this universe?

We where not born into this world, we came out of it.

Not adequate with yourself? Is there something or someone who really annoys you, that you want to get rid off? do you have some stress you want to work off?

Fear not, for the mind can be controlled and shaped, everything you experience as a reality is your only construction/hallucination of it, what you think there is, it really isn’t.

My recipe for happiness, creativity and positivism

Or rather some of my current recipe.

KEEP IN MIND

My ideas will only be my ideas, as you will not be able to associate and perceive them exactly the same way or order as i do/did. Therefore it’s very possible that my meanings might be very different from your meaning on a specific fact, for instance “what is a tree?”. This is only my “story” embodying my questions and answers; so they may not have the same effect on you as they have on me.

Understanding how meaning and emotions work

Everything you perceive and think is the world, is an illusion your body creates after what concepts/meanings you’ve associated with a certain thing.
How you see life, and everything around you is only how YOU perceive it, after your associations, values (meaning making) of the world.

For example when it comes to emotional feelings; in “emotional” circumstances your body reacts in a certain way, THEN your brain recognizes the specific feelings and create an emotion that is related to it. fear, love, lust, agony, happiness etc.. All these are illusions you’ve learned to feel in a specific situations and circumstances.

 You first make meaning out of something, then you experience emotion. There can be no emotion without a foundation of meaning to associate it with.

This is basically some principles from Neuro-Scemantics by Micheal L. Hall. This book is highly recommended if you’re looking for a way to efficiently reprogram yourself into something “better” ; Into something more healthy, more positive and someone who enjoys and see beauty in almost everything.

“Quality of Meaning — The Quality of Life Why is all of this about embodiment important? Because the quality of your meanings is the quality of your life. You can have no higher quality of life than the quality of your meanings. So creating rich and robust meanings is the process for how you can improve the quality of your life. I’ll add one more thing, from the Psychology of Self-Actualization. Namely this—you and I have within us a selfactualization drive. system is designed Your mind-body to actualize the messages it receives. That is the process. Now what it actualizes is whatever you commission to make real in your mindbody.” ― L. Michael HallNeuro-Semantics

The more you repeat a meaning, the more real it will seem to you.

We create habits; the more frequent something is experienced, the more normal it seems, the more of a habit it might become.

The same thing goes for meaning making,  as it’s here “everything” you call reality starts. These are the roots of who you are, how you feel and what you experience.  And the most wonderful thing is that you’re able to control these meanings to some extent, and can train yourself to become better at it.

So the more often you put meaning into something “Kiwi’s tastes awful” , “that building is tall” “she looks like a slut” the more likely you are to believe this in your oncoming life and stick to these dogmas/ideas to be the truth of the world. Conservatism.

Don’t take everything so damn serious, play with it, be free

If you have a problem, the problem is never external, it’s always internal. Yes there can be external elements that activates your problems or frustrations, but in the end the problems lie in how you put meaning into it, how you see things, how you believe the world should be.

So to reduce the sensation of inner problems, you must remove your desires, your problems arise mostly because you’re not adequate with what is, or that one have a desire that something should be different.

 

What i tend to do is if i catch myself in putting meaning into something negative, for instance when my friend asks me to go out for a walk and i start to think of why not. I stop myself of making that meaning. As I want to program it out of myself as a habit to be conservative.
It’s similar to the “yes man” principle, just with my neuro-semantic and dao influenced philosophy with it. Where I allow myself to put reason to things, but only reason that does me good. And not reason won’t benefit me or others in the long run, for something better.

My way of Dao/Tao

I find a lot of comfort in my way of dao, it gives me a larger perspective on things, and allows me to not be so serious about myself, make me see that everything is just a game, and there is a lot of different ways to play it.

Daoism is based on the holistic view: that a tree isn’t just a tree, and it couldn’t be if you just had a tree by itself. To have a tree you need to have a symbiosis between elements in the perfect conditions to make this tree. For instance if Andromeda(the galaxy) didn’t exist, who knows how the conditions would be on earth right now, if there where an earth at all? Everything can be seen as one, as everything is exactly what it’s like, because everything else where as well. If it where different, this present wouldn’t be like this – Butterfly effect.

So cutting down a tree or a forest isn’t just cutting down a tree or a forest, holistically it affects our symbiosis, our environment and the oncoming symbiosis, which can impact the world in so many ways.
Therefore; Yin and yang, you cannot have the one without the other.

Daoism is also about cherishing what’s now, how you can make the best out of and enjoy/be adequate with what is now. Rather than living in your past, of the greed or need of old feelings, or in the future, as you’re not ok with what is.

These principles are a great reminder for me to not be so serious about things, as my internal problems aren’t of any great importance compared to the holistic ones.

Focus on the now

Focusing on the now is the most effective thought process I’ve experienced so far, and it will most probably get stronger as my knowledge grows. I believe the reason of this is that you give yourself the time to focus on the problems that are now, so that you can allow yourself to more effectively  solve “problems” without distracting thoughts about the past or future.

Cherish what’s now, if you need to make future plans to progress towards your goals, then so be it, just don’t focus on problems, or anything that will negatively affect you, in the now, or over time.

Not adequate with yourself or the answers you get? – change the question, change your view of the world.

Life is a playground, play with it, you’re the only one to limit yourself. 

We where not born into this world, we came out of it.

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Creativity comes from being as open-minded and positive as possible, to not get boxed in and limited by ideas of how things and the world “should be like”.

The radical and the concervative

I’ve been struggling to figure out how I want to express myself and what I’m going to write about the last couple of days. And i feel the need to address a couple of things before I can feel relief.

First of all, I’ve added an “about me” page, to clarify that I’m not an educated philosopher. Nor can I log many years of practicing self-control, objectivity or meta programming under the personal study of philosophy.

But that doesn’t mean that my ideas are less worth than a certified old philosopher. As he might and most probably are more biased/certain(limited objectivity) about more elements than me.
(I would presumably be more open to “chaos”,than him)
But rather that I’m new to this, and I would consider myself more fallible than a  philosopher with a Ph.D. when speaking off already existing models and ideas. As I’ve been exposed to these ideas over a shorter period of time, less time to build certainty/crystallise.

I began to take deep interest in philosophy about 3-5 months ago, and It have already given me a lot of new values, models and a views. Even tho I had not experienced the world directly trough this set of mind, before just recently, doesn’t mean that i can’t backtrack my memories and apply these values to observe what kind of “reality” I would observe then.

I felt it was in place to address this to relieve myself from the idea that, you might expected more of me, as I’m advertising myself as a Philosopher, which I consider myself, just not to an “educational degree”.
This is one of the elements that have held back and made me mentally crumble under a blanket. And the funny part is that i usually tend to be positive about situations like this. As I’ve gotten a new habit lately to jump into things and test them out. Instead of withdrawing and make reasons on reasons on why I shouldn’t or why it’s not good enough. 

New/positive knowledge/information can only come trough chaos, the unpredictable.
Without the ability of making order out of chaos , it wouldn’t be possible to make one out from the other.

Which brings me to today’s topic:

Positivism and negativism, chaos and order, advancement or retreat

I’ve been talking a lot about this theme before, but I don’t feel I’ve explained the matter to the detail I wanted.

As a student of meta-programming it’s really essential to be able to self observe. To point out, and see the differences between negative and positive behaviour, actions and outcomes. If it either makes you advance(dynamic) or be on a standstill (static)

You don’t get anything by having a negative attitude to new ideas/information. – I’m not ok
Goals are not fulfilled by their own, they don’t do the work for you and suddenly appear in your lap.
You have to be accepting towards new information to achieve anything new at all. – I’m ok

When I say information, I don’t only mean ideas, but EVERYTHING you perceive; from sound, vibrations, geographical location and so on. As everything new, is new information, something which you couldn’t predict (make order out of).

This seems simple enough, doesn’t it? Well it might be a little harder than you’d expect. What i just described with being accepting or ignorant is basically the outcome of Circuit 1 from the 8 circuit model <– Clickable. And it’s only one core mechanism which can and will be affected my other elements/circuits like feelings and habits.

Habits are to me, basically, rituals that are automated, to achieve a certain goal. So you don’t need to focus constantly on which decisions to take.
This is to me a very good trait in the human being, as it makes order out of chaos, makes us function.

But, habits are also products of certainty, as you might have guessed so far. So don’t put trust to much in them. If you’re looking for progress.

It’s never good with too much of either chaos, or order. To much order makes you ignorant, and to much chaos makes you disoriented. So the trick is keep a balance, by “maintaining” yourself, every now and then, or on a daily basis.

Habits that were made 1 week ago, 1 month or a year ago, might not be as productive towards reaching your current goals, as they where then. As you might have learned something new, in the meantime that can improve efficiency or the outcome, or give you new values/goals.

Don’t let yourself try to reason why you shouldn’t do things, as you will always find a good enough reason if you look for it. If you feel strong spontaneous emotions, don’t fully believe in what you’re perceiving is the right thing. Question yourself, try to behave radical, do new things more often. It can and will enrich your life, if done correctly.

So ask yourself from time to time: “Am I pessimistic about this situation? am i getting progress? or am I just making excuses to why I should stay here, in my comfort zone?

I feel I’ve left some important elements out, so I might update this post in the near future.

The strange chaos and comforting order

Labeling is one of the more crucial factors of our technology / information leaps.It’s a system which can be used to describes mechanisms,values and properties of objects or ideas. The best part is that we’re able to easily  communicate both verbally/by sound and by text or symbols, with these labels.

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This ability to label and associate words with meaning

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is something that have grown over hundreds and hundreds of years, where we’ve developed from using simple/primal gestures and sounds, to more advanced ways of bending sound with our oral instruments.

The labeling  have helped us a lot and made us able to progress with enormous technological leaps, (Jumping Jesus phenomena) Which have made us able to go from stick’s and stones to more complex extensions like computational binary systems(computers) and every other invention you can think of.

But being exposed frequently to the  same labels can make you too certain and biased by its meanings and values, making you more or less dogmatic . Tilting over to the illusion of Aristotelian logic about right’ism and wrong’ism, like I talked about in my previous post

This i believe, is a product of our primal survival instincts that adapt and consider events that happens frequently as “normal”, in contrary to what we experience with a rare or very little frequent, as weird,abnormal,unusual or any what label you want to use.

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Just look at the different cultural social and mating rituals you have around you.
If you don’t follow the rules of what’s “anticipated” of how to behave or what labels/symbols/signals to use, when you are conversation or interacting with someone , you’re  going to be looked at as “weird” or “unusual”.
This often sets the observer in a “you’re not ok” state, which is yet another survival mechanism to not trust some-one/thing that’s not dependable.

This is also something similar to what happens when you feel your ideas are attacked, and you get into a defensive state. Where you’d ignorantly make up reasons or stick to opinions even how illogical they are. Which I  believe many of you out there have experience in recognizing. when dwelling on ones previous actions.

These are instinctual analyzes and decisions the brain makes even before we’ve gotten enough time to think over a fraction of the elements that’s in play. This is yet again a product of our pattern seeking survival abilities, to differentiate between  if there is a threat, meal or a friendly lurking behind the bushes.
(Daniel Kahneman describes this as “System 1” in his book “Thinking, Fast and Slow“)

As previously stated, this is something that the brain does automatically, but it doesn’t mean it can’t be fought.
As it is always possible to “out logic” your primal casualties and ignore the illusion your brain is trying to put you in, by observing one self and being critical to ones thought.

So I’d recommend to no be so sure about your own and others peoples labels, question yourself and your beliefs, doubt your doubt, and don’t be so sure that you KNOW. And try to use wider variety of labels, instead of the same old dogmatic ones over and over again.
The meaning of words are built up by other words and their meanings.
I believe it is  naturally for us to use labels differently from one and another, as we’re different subjects of the external and internal influences and experience and associate different ideas,feelings and values!


So I think we should exploit this, to understand each others values to a deeper extent, and be “i’m ok, you’re ok” to ideas that’ll give you cognitive dissonance. This is to achieve a wider “objectivity” and not least get a deeper understanding/connection/relation with a human being. Which is one of the most emotionally rewards I have experienced up until this date.

It’s a large world out there, go out and explore its beauties
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If you’re still with me at this point, it probably means you take interest in this. And i think it’s time for you to practice these ideas into your life by yourself now. Think about labels in any circumstance it may appear, from everything to how commercial,news and magazines are built up, to sell. To what the different labels on your keyboard symbolizes to what labels you use to describe your feelings. It’s practically everywhere in this type of logic, you were just not tuned in and aware of it before.

A quick summary of my point-making .
 – Labels are efficient tools to share ideas with one and another, but don’t let the Aristotelian logic bias you too much.
– Doubt yourself and your routines.
– The brains “system 1” imprints you with decisions before you’re even get to think about it. So try to observe yourself, what values are you biased by?
– Take time to understand your environment and friends
– Don’t “awfullize” matter
– Don’t be so sure of yourself and your opinions.
– Use a wider variety of labels that describes the same principles with different values in mind, to obtain more objectivity.

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